"Is gossip the way of life?"

How interesting to chatter or discuss the trivial matters of some one nearer to you or some other popular people?

We are unconcerned even if precious hours are lost in jabbering about the personal or private affairs of others. Generally gossip is seen as destructive, malicious, reprehensible and has acquired shady reputation. Many times gossip is exaggerated or manipulated according to individual's comprehension.

TV, News papers, Magazines etc play a vital role in allotting or allocating major portion of their time or columns in depicting everything about celebrities, politicians and information about violence, crime, robbery, corruption, divorce, sex oriented matters etc.

Our modern culture encourages this superficial activities misleading the people from the real purpose of healthy and abundant life.

Arguments in favour of gossip is that

• it helps individuals to learn social information about another, inculcate the knowledge as to what is considered socially acceptable behavior.
• it helps to bond the people - the act of gossiping, talking,sharing secrets and stories bond people together.
• it teaches lessons - it's a kind of deterrent or punishment against those who deviate from the norms and values of a group or society.
• Gossips about celebrities & other famous people in newspapers, magazines and other media become an example to others.

Every one knows that gossip causes great deal of damages in people's lives. It affects trusts, hurt feelings & reputations as well as morale of the person who are in the subject.

Truth about gossip:

J.Krisnamurthy, a renowned writer and speaker says that "Gossip is an expression of restless mind. To talk about some one pleasantly or viciously is an escape from oneself. Through gossip we become more and more externalized and inwardly empty. Gossip or worry come to an end only when the restlessness of the mind is understood."

The true purpose of our life is healthy and abundant growth.Through misuse of or unconscious use of words we unleash negative and destructive vortex of energy.

According to William Walker Atkinson, our thoughts send vibrations of a fine ethereal substances which are as real as the vibration manifesting light, heat and electricity. As a magnet sends out vibrations and exert a force that is sufficient to attract a piece of iron, our thoughts attract whatever we focus on. Thoughts of love attracts love, beauty and harmony. Thoughts of anger,hatred and jealous will draw to us the foul brood of hindered thoughts which in turn reality.

So, many of our problems are attracted by unconscious use of words, speeches or gossips which transform our life in to a total insane asylum.

Therefore, before enter in to a chatter session, think for a moment, use positive and healthy words. Gossip is not the way of our life.

MUTHALI MANOHARAN